As I enter a new decade in my life, I find myself embarking on a journey of self-discovery and growth. Recently diagnosed with ADHD and autism, I have started medication to help navigate the unique challenges that come with these neurological differences. Turning 40 has brought about a newfound sense of clarity and understanding about myself, leading me to explore new hobbies, learn new skills, and embrace this new chapter with an open heart and mind.
Living with ADHD and autism as an adult can present its own set of obstacles, but it also offers a unique perspective on the world. One of these challenges was being able to connect with other people. Missing social cues, not being able to look people in the eye when speaking, not being able to regulate volume well, especially when excited and saying random things that are not related to the conversation at hand has significantly impacted my ability to connect with others.
Likewise, maintaining relationships with others is also hard. I go about life doing what I need and unless someone is in front of me, its not that they get forgotten, it is more a matter of I don’t think to contact them and always thought people would reach out to me if the needed me. People don’t work like that. It means those close, lasting friendships people often have or connection within family is not something I have been able to experience.
Finding ways to connect with others who are on a similar journey has been an invaluable source of support and inspiration for me. Through sharing my experiences, I hope to create a sense of community for individuals who may be facing similar struggles. At the end of the day, we all understand when you say that random thing that is totally unrelated and you are kicking yourself that you said because everyone is looking at you weird (yep - I’ve been there many times).
One of the most significant changes I have experienced since starting medication is a newfound sense of freedom. The constant whirlwind of thoughts and emotions that once consumed me has quieted, allowing me to focus more clearly and approach tasks with a renewed sense of purpose. Everyday activities that once seemed daunting now feel more manageable, and I am able to approach them with a sense of calm and confidence. This includes connecting with others. Without the extra’s bombarding my brain, I can focus on conversations when I have them. I am present more than I have ever been. I am a far better communicator and can network and connect. Small talk is still an issue but I have the space now to be able to give it a go. The anxiety in these situations is significantly lower than it once was.
As I continue to navigate life with ADHD and autism, I am grateful for the opportunity to connect with others and share in this journey together. I am also grateful to have had people around me that have been supportive both before and after my diagnosis and have supported me to speak out about my experience and in turn connect.
Through open and honest dialogue, we can find strength in our similarities and support each other through our differences. Together, we can create a community that embraces neurodiversity and celebrates the unique perspectives we all bring to the table. In the coming weeks and months, I look forward to sharing more about my journey, including the challenges I face, the victories I celebrate, and the lessons I learn along the way. I hope that my story can offer a sense of hope and encouragement to others who may be navigating similar paths. Remember, you are not alone, and there is power in our shared experiences. Let's continue to connect, support, and uplift one another as we navigate life with ADHD and autism at 40 and beyond.
See you soon xx
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